The Grief of the Newly Bereaved

We are usually totally unprepared for the reality of grief and not knowing what is ‘normal’ can cause further anxiety.

And, how do we cope in what feels like a new world, where people around us may treat us differently – or even avoid us?

What is normal, anyway?

Well be assured, the way you are feeling is normal.

The Compassionate Friends Victoria provided a sounding board. Families and friends become exhausted with the constant emotional support they have to provide. TCFV allowed us to vent and needed no explanation for mood swings or angry behaviour. Support was there even in the dark hours of the morning.

The Grief Cycle
The Typical Grieving Path

Normal Reactions to Grief

Over time, you may experience a range of feelings while you grieve – some more than once. Here are some examples:

  • Shock, numbness, feeling of unreality
  • Helplessness
  • Vulnerability
  • Fearfulness
  • Sadness
  • Anger, irritability
  • Emptiness, loneliness
  • Guilt
  • Carelessness, harming oneself or others in any way
  • Being unaware of others’ needs
  • Passivity
  • Withdrawing from or avoiding others
  • Decreased work productivity
  • Loss of interest in usual pleasures, including hobbies and/or relationships
  • Strained relationships
  • Differences in grieving needs between self and others
  • Fatigue, sleep disturbance
  • Decreased or increased appetite
  • Physical distress, nausea
  • Anxiety, hypo- or hyperactivity
  • Greater susceptibility to illness
  • Slowed and/or disorganized thinking
  • Confusion, aimlessness, difficulty concentrating
  • Unaffected, no thoughts at all about the person or the circumstances
  • Decreased self-esteem
  • Altered perceptions, sensing the presence of the deceased child

Contact The Compassionate Friends Victoria for more information and support

Phone (03) 9888 4944, Country Victoria Free Call 1800 641 091