We are usually totally unprepared for the reality of grief and not knowing what is ‘normal’ can cause further anxiety.
And, how do we cope in what feels like a new world, where people around us may treat us differently – or even avoid us?
What is normal, anyway?
Well be assured, the way you are feeling is normal.
Early reactions to grief can include:
- Loss of concentration
- Withdrawal from everything
- Physical exhaustion
- Intense emotions such as anger, uncontrollable crying, guilt and sometimes swinging from one emotion to another in short periods of time
- Loss of appetite or emotionally overeating
- Feeling as though you are ‘going crazy’
Grief is like having a jagged stone inside oneself; as time passes the jagged edges gradually become smooth, but the stone remains.
Unexpected situations you may have to deal with following a death may include:
- Loss of friendships due to unrealistic expectations, insensitive remarks or being avoided
- Dealing with the Coroner’s Court including the process involved and when to expect a report
- Cancelling a mobile phone contract
- Dealing with a change of circumstances such as a child who required a high level of care and lots of contact with people and all of this disappearing immediately
- Closing Facebook and email accounts
- Financial matters such as life insurance, debts, assets etc
Avenues of Support
Bereaved Parent, Sibling & Grandparent Support Centre – located in Canterbury, in Melbourne’s eastern suburbs, where you can meet other people in a similar situation. Drop in and see us.
Support and social groups – run by bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents, who have been trained as peer supporters, at various locations around Melbourne and regional Victoria. Find a group here.
Time-Out Program – A range of accommodation options to provide members needing a ‘time out’ from the grief and stress of everyday living after suffering the loss of a loved one at a low cost
Family and friends – Treasure those people who allow you to talk about your loved one, cry as you need and provide you with unconditional support.
Contact The Compassionate Friends Victoria for more information and support
Phone (03) 9888 4944, Country Victoria Free Call 1300 064 068